Stabbed In The Back!

Can I just say that it is so difficult to find people you can really trust. Has it always been the case? or are the trustworthy people just becoming obsolete?

There is this woman who I thought was a friend of mine at work. We have lunch together, sometimes she takes me to lunch, sometimes I take her. I even let her borrow my car when her car broke down. We were kind of close. We have both expressed dislike about this other person that we work with, because she's loud, offensive, ignorant, critical of others, this woman is just completely negative.

This past weekend, I decided to work overtime and so did my supposedly friend. To my surprise, the person that we don't like also decided to work that day. Both of them had no idea that I was just behind them, I heard the girl who's supposed to be my friend say to the other girl "He's still here", on a quiet tone. I decided to ignore it, because I wanted to give my friend the benefit of the doubt. Next day comes, and we were suppose to have lunch like we always do,  lo'l and behold, the two of them decides to have lunch together. I felt like I've been back stabbed!

Now, this experience really made me think about Karma. I use to believe in it, but I have doubts about it now. I have invested goodness to this person, did I deserve to be treated like that? NO! Bad things happen to good people to. And now, more than ever, I appreciate my two bestfriends who I have been friends with since I was 16 and has never let me down. I thought I was very selective when choosing people I would invite in my life. Evidently I failed.

Comments

[Blair]

I just happened to spot this blog entry as I was logging in and, as a "virtual stranger," HAD to respond. I'm completely there with you man. I think part of it is just the deterioration of adult relationships in general. So many people are absorbed in getting/doing what they want, so much of the time, I don't think they even think about, in a SELF-conscious & SELF-conscientious way , (or care) whether their actions constitute that of a good friend or 'signif other' or whatever. I too thought relationships (including friendships) were supposed to get more 'mature' (trustworthy, mutually satisfying, and all that) as you got older but I guess not. I too have had to rid my 'circle' of toxic people I thought I'd grow old knowing. I identify with your angst. Keep your head up and keep guarding your energy! take care.

[Alissa]

hi ben .. i saw ur blog .. how are u feeling?

[Joanne]

Hey Ben...Yeah, I totally agree with your blog...It's called 'PLASTIC.' Just be thankful dat you saw her 'true' colors now than later, di ba..alwayz think positive like what you told me once before..you also told me once na it's their lost not "ours" because you are such a beautiful person in the inside and the outside ..don't ever forget all da good things you do for others...I do envy Jessica because she has someone like you in her life...You are one of a kind...I know we have not seen or talked to each other in a while, but if you ever need a kaibigan to talk to-----I am all ears....I miss you Ben...stay sweet...

Joanne

[verna]

hi this is my second time of reading blogs from ur side.. everytime it happens im into the same situation u'r in.. di ko alm? : ) well some people r doing that to save themselves, something like they wanted to be very good in the eyes of everybody though they r not..nakakainis un db? atleast u've shown ur real side, i mean u did ur part, its their lost..

[Ryan]

Finally got hold of your blog... Hey, this ain't bad at all. You're being unreasonably modest when you said otherwise!

As for your backstabbing friend, just return to her the knife she used and move on... ;-)